Recipe: Lemon Chicken Burgers

Recipe: Lemon Chicken Burgers

Recently we’ve decided we all need to eat a little better, less processed food and more wholesome home cooked, made from scratch, healthy food!

Unfortunately, hubs is a very reluctant chef, he’ll quite happily shove stuff in the oven or warm up leftovers but anything above and beyond is a complete no no. Don’t get me wrong, he does have his uses but cooking to him is like fixing computers is to me!

I, on the other hand, love cooking. Baking more so, but that’s because of the end product. I mean, who doesn’t love cake?!

Anyways, reluctant chef aside I’m also finding myself working more evenings now which begin around teatime, so the challenge, (aside from also finding something the kids will eat) is to find recipes for meals I can make up in advance and leave hubs to pop it in the oven.

I’ve been racking my brains for a few days now and suddenly remembered this recipe for Lemon Chicken Burgers I used to make all the time when hubs and I were on a health kick many moons ago.

They’re pretty easy to make and can be served as proper burgers or for a healthier meal with stir fried veg, or rabbit food. Um, I mean a nice crunchy green salad!!

This recipe does require a food processor, unless you can convince your butcher to mince the chicken for you. It’ll save you a job, but having a food processor means you can make all sorts of other essential recipes such as cheesecake. Clearly, it’s an absolute necessity!

Now I just need to convince hubs that I NEED a new food processor cause mine is old and rubbish. I’ve lost the attachments for shredding and slicing and in any case it never had an attachment for whisking egg whites like this one.

Magimix Food Processor

And this is a must have. It would make pavlova so much easier which would mean we could have one every weekend!! (Anyone sensing my cake/dessert addiction yet)

Anyway, back to the recipe!

You’ll need:-

2 chicken breasts, approx 350-400g (ideally skinless and boneless unless you want to do more faffing)
50g finely chopped onion
1 leek, finely chopped
1/2 tsp of vegetable bouillon powder
A generous squeeze of lemon (approx 1 tbsp) and some finely grated zest

You can add a clove of crushed garlic but although I love it, I tend to avoid adding garlic to meals, our jobs mean we’re in close contact with our clients and we don’t want them keeling over the minute we stand next to them!

• First of all preheat the oven to 200C/Gas Mark 6.
• Then fry the onion and leek, (and garlic if you add it) gently until it’s slightly softened. Remove from the heat and leave to cool.
• Cut the chicken into chunks and chuck it into the food processor. Give it a whizz until its well chopped but stop before it turns to mush!
• Pop the chicken in a bowl with the onion, leek, lemon juice, zest and bouillon powder.
• Make sure your hands are sparkling clean and give it a good squish together. Divide the mixture evenly into balls. (This recipe will make about 6 medium sized burgers or about 10 mini burgers, which might be a better option for kids. Food always seems much more appealing to them when it’s kiddie sized!)
• Place the mixture onto baking trays greased with a little sunflower oil and flatten into burgers before baking for 15 minutes in total. You’ll need to turn the burgers over about 10 minutes into the cooking time. And if you’re making mini burgers reduce the cooking time by a few minutes, but make sure they’re cooked right through.

If you’re not cooking these straight away place them on some greaseproof paper and pop into food bags, then place them in the fridge to chill until you need them.

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Lego, Baddies & Ice Cream

Lego, Baddies & Ice Cream

On Sunday we went to play at the Legoland Discovery Centre Manchester in Barton Square at the Trafford Centre for a Blogsupnorth meetup.

Lil Man has been begging to go to the Legoland Discovery Centre for ages so even though I was slightly nervous about taking a very spirited 3 year old and boisterous 4 year old on my own, we couldn’t not go.

He was fit to burst when I told him we were going and once Lil Miss has got over her strop about not being allowed to go to Hello Kitty Land instead, she was pretty excited about the prospect of a day out somewhere fun!

I was very impressed at how organised they were when we arrived, which incidentally was on time after a very blowy drive on the motorway. That makes quite a change. Us being on time I mean, not the blowy motorway!!

IMG_7579 The kids looked in awe as we entered the lego factory and it was explained to them how lego was made. I was expecting a little more from the lego factory tour to be honest, it seemed quite a big build up for something that barely lasted a couple of minutes and would’ve been more fun for the parents if the professor had been a bit more of an eccentric actor, well maybe more fun for me anyway!

However, all the children seemed to enjoy jumping up and down to give the machines power and mine were chuffed to bits to get the machines working and then their own little piece of lego to take home.

Afterwards we headed straight for the Kingdom Quest ride where I was pleased to see that the three of us could go on together. The kids were beside themselves when they realised there were guns to shoot baddies with! Lil Miss wasn’t too keen on the trolls and announced at the end she wouldn’t be going on again. She soon changed her mind when she realised she couldn’t go on the other rides. One because she wasn’t old enough, and the other because it would’ve required another adult with us, which was a bit disappointing. They weren’t too happy about it either! However, she really enjoyed herself the second time around on Kingdom Quest and would have happily gone back to shoot the skeletons, spiders and trolls again straight after!

IMG_7453The kids absolutely loved the soft play area. I actually think they’d have been happy spending most of the day in there. I was a bit disappointed we missed the earthquake tables. And there was no time to look at miniland either, they weren’t interested one bit and unfortunately both wanted to do different stuff at the same time, which was quite a challenge. Fortunately there was a rather big group of bloggers with us and eventually we found Becky from Lakes Single Mum and her two fab children, particularly Miss E who kept my two thoroughly entertained!

IMG_7603They did love looking at all the large lego displays such as the stormtrooper and the car in the shop (which I couldn’t get Lil Miss out of!) And having seen Harry Potter and Hagrid characters at a children’s festival just the previous weekend they were very excited when they spotted lego versions!

The one bit we all really enjoyed was the 4D film. I almost didn’t take them in as I wasn’t sure they’d sit through it. They also weren’t overly keen as there was too many other attractions catching their eyes, but I’m glad we did. They sat through the whole film in their glasses trying to grab at everything they saw. The snow & rain effects were great. I didn’t realise at the time but there were also wind effects. I actually thought it was just the air con!! Duh!

We really had a great day out, although by the end of it I was more worn out than the kids. Unfortunately, I had to drive home so couldn’t take advantage of a nap in the car like they did!

We’ll be returning at some point, they really enjoyed it and there was lots they didn’t get chance to do. Lil Man has already asked when he can go back and both have enjoyed telling everyone who’s asked them about playing with the lego, and rather enthusiastically, about shooting all the baddies!!

Next time I’ll make sure I don’t go solo and we’ll also be going when it’s a bit quieter. To be fair it was the last weekend of the Easter School holidays but it was pretty hot and manic in there & there are areas where there wasn’t a huge amount of space. The kids being much smaller and far more nimble than me, could zip through little gaps which made it hard for me to get past people to keep up with them. There was a few times I lost sight of them which I didn’t like. I would have liked to see a security door or gate on the exit that can only be opened by adults. Mine are more than capable of opening the heavy fire doors and the exit to the shop had no door at all. Lil Man was so desperate to get out to the shop that I did worry that rush off without me!

We were also invited to Cawaladers afterwards, which is quite handily, right next door. The kids were given an ice cream each and I had a coffee. I couldn’t wait to go in there. We spent many an afternoon in Cadwalders in Porthmadog during our childhood holidays so it was a bit of a blast from the past. The ice cream was just as good as I remember and the coffee was a very welcome (desperately needed) caffeine boost after 3 hours of chasing round the LDC!!!

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We received free tickets to the Legoland Discovery Centre to attend the Blogs Up North meetup and also free ice creams and coffee at Cadwaladers.

Little Fun Fest

Little Fun Fest

For WEEKS the kids have been literally bursting with excitement because we’d been invited to the Little Fun Fest at Redhouse Farm in Altrincham.

Ok, that was me.

They were really looking forward to it though, more so with only a few days to go.

All week they’ve been counting down the days and on Friday morning Lil Man got up and shouted ‘one more sleep til SATURDAY!’ They were looking forward to seeing Alex Winters (from cBeebies) and Mr Bloom and most of all the inflatable slide!!

Little Fun Fest

We were all set to go early & get breakfast somewhere else until breakfast at Red House Farm was highly recommended, so we headed straight for the tearooms with our rumbling bellies the second we got there.

I only had the mini breakfast that we also ordered for the kids. Stuffed is not the word. The giant sausage was a mini meal in itself. My only disappointment was that I was too full to finish off what the kids couldn’t eat!

With very full tummies we headed out to have a look around. Lil Man was a bit overwhelmed with everything there was to do and struggled to choose at first, from fairground rides to the inflatable slide and bouncy castle to the petting farm, the barrel train ride and of course all the entertainment in the barn and the big top. All of which were included in the ticket price!

We needn’t have been worried about the weather one little bit as the sun shone all day, specially ordered by Jem for the Little Fun Fest of course! But even if it hadn’t there was plenty to do inside where we could have kept dry. Parking was really close to the event too, which was excellent as it meant we were able to leave the picnic in the car, plus changes of clothes for the kids and didn’t have to lug loads of stuff about all day.

We didn’t see much of Hagrid after Lil Miss ran away from him because he was too big, but Harry Potter was hilarious. I nearly fell off my chair laughing when he pointed at her umbrella and told my mum the end had fallen off her broomstick!!!

Waiting a while for the kids to have their faces painted meant we missed some of the entertainment, but it was well worth it. We did get to see some of the Puppet show in the barn while we were waiting and although That Face Painter was the only one there, she did a sterling job. She was pretty rapid & it seemed that every child got exactly what they wanted. Lil Man bless him, helpfully stood there holding Lil Misses hair out of her face while she had it painted. The kids were chuffed to bits and Lil Man even asked to go to sleep in his face paint!

I loved the fact that the Little Fun Fest was so close to home, it meant that loads of people we knew were there too. We got to spend the day, well most of it, with my mum, sister, brother-in-law and niece and some of my closest friends and their little ones. We also got to see Mommatwo and her brood, Fi from Childcare Is Fun and her tribe too, and we got to meet some other Twitter friends too like Claire and Rural Mummy!

Starkidz provided some of the entertainment including characters such as Spiderman, Spongebob & the Easter Bunny. Lil Man was made up to have his picture taken with Spiderman, he even smiled nicely without pulling a face, which is a miracle in itself!! (There’s another story in there, which I’ll tell you another time) And having recently had Hello Kitty visit our house where Lil Man hid under the dining table for the entire duration of her visit, I was amazed when he volunteered to hold Lil Misses hand so she’d have her picture taken with her!

Meeting Spiderman totally made his day and given that he’s usually very quick to accuse characters of being ‘people dressed up’ I was surprised when he whispered to me that it ‘really was the real Spiderman’!

The mini mosh pit in the big top was fab, we were able to let the kids just go and dance and we got to sit on the sidelines (hay bales) and watch. It meant that they were all safe and contained, and Lil Miss didn’t need to attempt scaling barriers to get to Alex like last time!!

One of the highlights of the day was the dance off between Alex and Fi.

Fi challenged Alex to a dance off as a joke on Twitter and didn’t realise that it was going to form part of her day, least not in the big top anyway, until she arrived at the Little Fun Fest to find it on the schedule!

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I have to admit I was a bit cowardly and hid behind Lil Miss and my niece when he asked for another mum volunteer. He’d already thrown buns at me, made me dance to get a lollipop for Lil Miss and picked me out of the crowd when I started cheering for Fi! That man busts some serious moves (as did the man in the hat), no way was I taking him on!! I did get a little video, unfortunately not the whole thing….. I’ll upload it here if I ever figure out how to compress it.

We also got some special treatment and were allowed to go meet Mr Bloom and spend some time with Alex in the VIP area, which me and the hubs thought was great. The kids were fairly indifferent, having met them both before. They were more interested in the juice and the lollipops! However, Mommatwo’s Jellybean kept us entertained by rolling around on the floor leaving a sand trail & generally being very sweet to all the other little ones. Alex also helpfully fed the kids a ruck of sugar ensuring we were able to keep them awake the entire way home!

I can’t tell you what an amazing day we had. It was an absolute blast! The Little Fun Fest did exactly what it said on the tin, there was so much to do we couldn’t get round it all, they didn’t even go on all of the free fairground rides, we could’ve quite easily gone both days and been completely entertained the entire time.

I can’t wait for the next one!

The organisers did an amazing job. It was so well planned and there were loads of little things that put the icing on the cake, such as the Easter Bunny saying goodbye to all the little ones and giving them a chocolate egg as they left.

If you missed this one, GO SUBSCRIBE NOW to the Little Fun Fest website and make sure you’re the first to know about any other Little Fun Fest events. If you’re there listen out for me. I’ll be there. WITH BELLS ON!!!

Palm Trees and Dinosaur Eggs

Palm Trees and Dinosaur Eggs

‘Lil Miss, put Francesco in the oven and burn him. Then he’ll die! He’s been very very naughty’

Oh. My. God!

‘Lil Man we don’t burn people for being naughty. What has Francesco done?’

‘I don’t know, but he’s a baddy. A real baddy.’

Hmmmm.

The kids have been doing a lot of role play lately. Some of it has been quite amusing, such as when Lil Miss piped up the other day

‘Lil Man, we needs to go the shoe shop, I need new shoes’

and Lil Man replied, ‘I’m not your baby’s daddy. You’re not getting new shoes!’

But still none of it has gone anywhere near pretending that toys, are burning and dying. I was slightly horrified and also completely perplexed as to where it came from.

Until bedtime.

‘Mummy, do you know the Easter story?’

‘I know some of it sweetie, why don’t you tell me what you know?’

‘Well, there’s palm trees and dinosaur eggs. No wait. Easter eggs, there’s Easter eggs. And Jesus was the King and the guards came to arrest him in his castle. Then he was made to carry a cross. His OWN cross! They got his hand and feet and put nails in them. Mummy, would it hurt if a nail went in your hand? There was two other people with the baby Jesus. No wait, Jesus was the King. One had a REALLY long white beard. Then Jesus died because he’d had no water. Would you die if you didn’t have anything to eat and drink? Mummy will I be alright if I don’t have water while I’m asleep tonight?’

Then he gulped down his milk and asked for some water.

I wondered why he’d been so keen to eat every scrap of his tea earlier!

I’m not sure what to make of this yet. I haven’t quite processed it. If it’s not obvious already, they’ve been taught this in school. I’m all for being honest with them but I can’t help but think this was done in slightly too much detail, he’s only in reception. He’s just 4 years old. I think that’s the thing that’s bothering me the most, the detail it seems they’ve gone into. He kept wanting to talk about how nails would feel in your hands and feet. He also started asking why we die because we grow. It took me a while to figure out that he just meant growing old.

It’s a tough one, I know at some point they need to know about death, he just still seems too little and my mothering instinct wants to protect him from things that might upset him.

I told him that I’d have to find the Easter story so we could read it together and talk about it some more. ‘Can we have a different Easter Story?’, he asked, ‘I don’t like that one’. I don’t blame him to be honest! Maybe we’ll make up our own happy Easter story with palm trees and dinosaur eggs.

Are you MAD??

I’ve been nominated for a MAD Blog Award.

Yes really.

It’s not a joke. At least I don’t think it is!

So thank you to whoever nominated me. However, I know there’s not a cats hell in chance of me actually getting any further.

If you’re asking why then you probably don’t read this. If there was a category for the worst blogger award then I’d almost certainly be deserving!

Truth is, life has taken over somewhat & this poor little blog has been well & truly neglected. It’s not that I don’t want to, or haven’t got any blogging fodder (hell, I’ve a phone full of half drafted posts) it’s just that blogging unfortunately has had to take less of a priority than real work. Fortunately I love my job so I don’t mind too much, but this has given me a little kick.

Ironically my blog has been nominated for Family Fun, which we do have, I just don’t get chance to blog it!

The blogs in this category are meant to be full of fun ideas and days out. Unfortunately it’s a little lacking here, you lot cant read the stuff thats in my head (Thank God!!) so I’ll have to find some time to get to work on that. There’s loads of family days out I’d have loved to have captured on here. Unfortunately they’ve been a gone now & blogging them retrospectively seems a little silly!

Next year it’d fantastic to be nominated & actually feel like I deserve to be there. Don’t get me wrong, I’m very grateful someone thought to nominate me, well chuffed in fact. But although I’m a very positive person, I’m a realist & I know there’s far more blogs that are deserving of that award (and the 500 quid!) than mine.

So, on that note, good luck to all the nominees, I’m sure there’ll be some great blogs that win, as they do every year. I’m off for now. Hopefully I’ll find time to post again before another 5 months fly by!!

K x

Me…..in caricature!

Me…..in caricature!

I’ve been, ‘ahem’ kindly tagged in a meme (and yes I know, I am normally rubbish at doing them. I’m doing this one because, it’s erm….fun and I had a bit of a kick up the bum at Blogcamp, which I’ll be writing about very soon, and it doesn’t require much writing!!)

Anyway, moving on.

I’ve been tagged by the lovely Claire from Cheshire Mum in a meme called How My Children See Me. The Return.  Tara at Sticky Fingers started the meme in 2009, and has now resurrected it so we can all partake in the humiliation merriment!

Basically, we have to ask our children to draw a picture of us and post it on our blogs so everyone can pee their pants laughing at it and make some comments about them capturing a great likeness!

Here’s Lil Man’s effort…….

I’m actually going to refrain from commenting much, although I suppose it’s what I might look like in alien form.

To be fair, he is only 4 and I do have all the right anatomy, almost.  He is excellent at drawing dinosaurs by the way!

 

SO, I’M TAGGING

Morgana @ But Why Mummy Why,  Susanne @ Ghostwritermummy and Minty @ Waterbirthplease (all are fab blogs so don’t wait for them to join in, go have a nosy anyway!)

I would’ve also tagged the Boyandme but her ace boy has already drawn a picture of her, which you can have a peek at here.

 

Here’s how you join in……

1. Ask your child to draw a picture of you (their age doesn’t matter).

2. Post it on your blog.

3. Tag some more bloggers to join in the hilarity.

4. And pop your post on Tara’s linky at Sticky Fingers :0) See easy as pie!

Naughty School

Last night I had a chat with Lil Man about school his first week at school, which incidentally has been awesome.  We couldn’t be prouder of him at the moment!

‘Your school is amazing’ I said, ‘You have all your friends there, the freedom to go and play with whoever you like, go outside when you like and the toys you have are just brilliant! Playing outside at your school is like going to the park!’

‘What was it like when you went to school mummy?’

‘Well, I had lots of fun at school with my friends but we didn’t have nearly as many toys as your school and we didn’t have any toys outside.’

‘What did you do outside?’

‘We had to make our own games up.’

‘Oh.’

And that was it.  End of conversation until early this morning when Lil Miss was being a stroppy madam, just for a change!

Lil Man pipes up ‘If she carries on she’ll have to go to naughty school.’

‘Hmmm, now there’s an idea Lil Man. I wonder if there is such a thing as naughty school….’

‘Well…..she could go to very naughty school.’

Lil Misses strop ended in an instant at the mention of very naughty school.  There was I, thinking how proud I was of his quick thinking and that maybe I should take tips from him for strop prevention, when he continued..

‘Or maybe she could go to your school mummy? ‘Cause it doesn’t sound very good!’

Too cool for school!

Too cool for school!

‘Can’t believe my lil man starts big school next week.’

‘It all just goes way too quick.’

I’ve said that A LOT this past week…..

‘Have you blogged it?’ Says @theboyandme ‘……it’s such a momentous occasion’

‘I want to write a post about it, but I can’t bring myself to do it’, says I.

I have to admit, I’ve never been the parent that cries buckets leaving their babies at nursery and counting the hours until they’ll be reunited.

I’m more like the one gaily skipping home looking forward to drinking a ‘hot’ coffee and making toast that I’ll actually get to eat!!!

Its not that I don’t love my babies with all my heart. I do, totally.

However, I do value the time I have to myself, even if it means working. That’s now my ‘me time’ and I’m grateful for it.

It might sound a little selfish, but I do value time to be grown up (well, sort of) me again! I also couldn’t enjoy my job more at the moment and am really loving the time I’m able to spend at the Centre.

But, as happy as I am to send them both off to pre-school, I am struggling with the whole proper school thing.

Pre-school was a great balance. A couple of days where I could work and Lil Man and Lil Miss get to go have fun with their friends. There was still always plenty of time for us to do stuff together, go to playgroups, playbarns, out for coffee, etc.

This ALL changes next week.  For the first time ever, I’m sure I’ll shed a little tear on the walk home.

Its just so permanent. Lil Man’s attendance will be required at school every week from Monday to Friday (except for school holidays) from now until he is 18!!

It means Lil Man is a proper grown up boy now!

It’s such a big thing. I’m going to miss him so much, but I am also really excited for him.

I’ve seen him grow in confidence and skills every time he’s moved to a different setting and I just know he’s going to come on leaps and bounds, once he’s got over the initial shock of having to go every day that is!

When I persuaded him to try his school uniform I wanted to get a snapshot of it! I’m not one for keeping up with the Joneses but everyone else is posting nice pictures of their littlies on Facebook and for once I thought it would actually be nice to have one pic of Lil Man doing the same. All togged up in his brand new school uniform to mark the occasion.

He wasn’t keen on putting his full uniform all on, but I finally managed to persuade him and did think I might be able to get a quick shot of him in all his get up.

And get the shot I did…..but, not ‘quite’ how I expected.

I definitely wasn’t expecting to be mooned!!!!

Cheeky boy!!

A cover up…..

I’ve been really neglecting my poor blog lately. Desperately wanting to write but not able to find the time. Until last week when I saw a tweet by Britmums on behalf of Kate @ Kate On Thin Ice and knew I had to get involved and I made sure I found the time.

The topic?

Domestic Abuse.

This is for a campaign by Refuge. Every day Refuge supports 1,600 women and children and helps them to rebuild their lives. They work to raise awareness of domestic violence and encourage people to speak out against it.

Make up artist Lauren Luke is helping the campaign too. You can see her video below

This video isn’t actually real, but the situation is for many women. They live with that fear on a daily basis.

The figures are shocking. On average 2 women a week are killed by a violent partner or ex-partner.

It’s not solely women who suffer from domestic abuse or domestic violence, but stats show that women are far more likely to be on the receiving end of it.

At least 1 in 4 women will experience it in their lifetime. Domestic violence is a crime and it’s the crime with the highest repeat victimisation. Once someone has been subjected to domestic abuse / violence, the likelihood of them suffering another incident is very high compared to other crimes. The police receive on average one call a minute in the UK about domestic abuse.

The most upsetting thing is that far more people suffer from domestic abuse / violence than we think. I’m well aware that a huge amount of it goes completely unreported and there are many people out there that are completely unaware that what they’re experiencing in their relationship is domestic abuse. It often begins so subtly that people don’t even realise it’s happening to them.

I used to deal with cases of domestic abuse on a daily basis. I cannot even begin to tell you how many times I sat in my office with a client and gently suggested that they had been suffering domestic abuse in their relationship because they weren’t aware of it. ‘But he’s never hit me!’ was often the response. And in cases where there had been physical violence the likely response would be, ‘it only happens when they’ve been drinking’ or ‘it’s because I wind them up’.

Which means to me that education is a major factor here.

Domestic abuse is not the victim’s fault. No-one deserves to be punched, slapped, threatened, intimidated or beaten down physically or emotionally.

And just because someone has not suffered physical violence does not mean that they have not experienced domestic abuse. Domestic abuse covers a multitude of things including:-

Financial control – making all financial decisions, withholding money and only allowing the smallest amounts for food and basic essentials.
Emotional pressure – making threats to leave, commit suicide, take the children away, go to Court, report to various welfare agencies.
Isolation – preventing contact with family and friends, monitoring or blocking telephone calls, text messages, emails, etc.
Making threats of physical or sexual violence – behaving aggressively and making angry gestures, using physical intimidation, shouting, breaking objects, punching walls, making threats to harm you and / or others.
Harassment – following you, opening mail, intercepting phone calls and text messages.
Constant criticism – telling you you’re not good enough, you don’t deserve love, respect, nice things, continuous putdowns, embarrassing you in front of others, ignoring or interrupting you.

All behaviour which, especially if it happens for a prolonged period, affects self-confidence and self-esteem. When you are told something often enough then you do begin to believe it. You’re not good enough, you’re a terrible parent, you don’t deserve to be loved.

The other worrying fact about domestic abuse is how often children are involved, or witness it. And even when they don’t it still affects them. We often don’t give our children enough credit for how sensitive, intuitive and intelligent they are. If all is not well in the parental camp, they know.

If children experience it often enough then it becomes an acceptable way of life to them. They can become victims or perpetrators of domestic abuse, because it’s normal to them.

I’ll never forget one of the very last cases I dealt with.

My client suffered domestic abuse for years, physically and in many of the ways described above. She had finally built up enough courage to leave her husband, report the abuse to the police and apply for an emergency injunction.

She had older children who objected to all these decisions and in turn subjected her to the same abuse she had suffered from their father. They couldn’t believe what ‘she was doing to him’.

They had witnessed his behaviour so often they felt she deserved the abuse she received and she was in the wrong for refusing to accept it any longer.

She was unable to get accommodation or assistance from Women’s Aid because they were full. She was not a priority for them and neither was she a priority for housing. In both situations it was because she didn’t have children to accommodate. Her older children had persuaded the younger children to refuse to leave their family home and their dad. She ended up sleeping on the streets because she had been previously isolated from her family and friends. She struggled to get benefits because her husband had been claiming them all on her behalf.

Eventually, she withdrew her police complaint, refused to go to Court and as a result was in a position where I could do very little to help her. I had to pass her case to a colleague when I went on maternity leave. I don’t know the outcome, and it saddens me to say that I strongly suspect she returned to the family home and is in no different a situation to when she first came to see me. This happens far more often than any of us realise.

I saw another post last week that really struck a chord with me. It was about not forcing children to do things to please other people, such as kiss or hug people to avoid upsetting them. If we force children to do things like this against their will then it teaches them to put other’s feelings before their own. And it teaches them to disrepect their own feelings and bodies to avoid upsetting others, which is often how people find themselves drawn into relationships that feature domestic abuse.

Therefore, it’s essential that we not only get the message out there to people experiencing domestic abuse #dontcoveritup but we should also teach children to respect themselves and their bodies. It’s extremely important that we teach them physical violence and emotional abuse is not ok and has no place to be accepted in our society.

If you are suffering from domestic abuse, please speak to someone #dontcoveritup

If you suspect someone you know is suffering from domestic abuse, please speak to them and encourage them to speak out #dontcoveritup

Dear Blog

I know I’ve been neglecting you a bit (ok, a lot) lately. Im truly sorry, I do wish I could spend more time with you but at the moment real life stuff has to take priority.

And, I know that those who shout loudest shouldn’t necessarily get first, but when it’s two very loud, boisterous toddlers who can also turn on that adorable puppy eye charm at the flick the of a switch, I mean seriously, who’s going to argue with them??

I promise normal service will resume soon. In fact, I have a real treat for you in October. We’re going to Blog Camp!!! I’ll get to spend a whole day of quality time with you.

And no. I did not sign up just for the cake! *tsk*

I’m very excited as I’ll get to meet some of my twitter/blogger friends, who I’ve also been neglecting lately, sorry about that too!

I’m hoping to come away inspired, with some creative ideas so I can make you more my own & in the meantime I intend to work on this work/ life/blog balance thing!

Blog again soon!
Lots of love
Kate x