I need to stop bribing my children.
There I said it.
Yes I admit it. I bribe them.
I bribe them to do stuff so it doesn’t take an hour to get out of the house. I bribe them so it doesn’t take fifty attempts to get in the car & I sometimes bribe to go to sleep so I can get some work done.
Yes, you can judge me.
I judge me! I’m not perfect. Far from it in fact.
Occasionally bribery works instantly. More often than not, it has no effect.
It’s a horrible habit I’ve fallen into, and although I try to use other means of compromising with my children, sometimes I can’t help myself. I hear the words falling out of my mouth before I have chance to stop them!
The problem is, after bribery where do you go? When it doesn’t work, what else do you do?
I know I need to stop it because it doesn’t work.
And it actually doesn’t fit right with me. It doesn’t feel right to be promising them something in return for something they should be doing anyway, like getting dressed, getting ready for school and the one I use it most of all for, tidying their toys. It’s too hard apparently. They’re too tired. There’s too much for them to tidy up. Wasn’t a problem when they made the mess, but still!
I suppose mostly, it’s more bargaining than bribery but still, whatever label I give it. I know I shouldn’t!
However, because there’s so much to do, so much to fit in and at the moment it feels like too little time to fit it all in, I keep doing it.
I’m my own worst enemy.
I need to slow it down. Stop rushing them everywhere. Stop using bribery to force them to do what I want them to do, or think they should do.
They’re little people.
I should be giving them proper choices.
Also today, Lil Man had a major meltdown because I asked him to tidy up before we went out. He lay on the floor like an overacting footballer proclaiming he couldn’t get up, whining that he needed me to pick him up.
I told him he wasn’t going out until he had got himself up and tidied away the mess he had made. He told me ‘I’ll only do it if you pick me up’
I suppose that was me told good & proper.
Talk about leading by example huh?
Man, this parenting lark is like being at school all over again!